My way doesn’t work so well

Submitting to someone is tough to do, and it starts early. Ask the two-year-old who looks you in the eye and defiantly grabs the forbidden cookie. Or the seventh-grader who lives by the adage that rules were meant to be broken. You’ve seen it in the boundary-testing behavior of the sixteen-year-old who constantly has to rediscover that mom means what she says.

And, of course, we’ve seen it in us, and not just back when we were kids.

It all started in the beautiful nature park of Eden. Adam and Eve sought and found autonomy, but the fruit didn’t taste as good as they’d hoped. The lie they fell for was the one that suggested they could make their own rules, that God’s prohibition was rooted in his wanting to keep them from experiencing some kind of secret joy.

What they found was that deciding for themselves what was best wasn’t all the snake promised. It led to shame (within themselves), conflict (with each other), and alienation (from God). Not to mention what it did for childbirth and tilling the ground.

We’ve struggled to submit ever since, choosing to go our own way and make our own rules. The same spirit that motivates the cookie-grabbing two-year-old animates us as well: we want to do what we want to do.

Except it doesn’t work. At all.

It didn’t work when Adam and Eve tried it, it didn’t work with Cain, it didn’t work at Babel, it won’t work with us. In fact, that’s one of the purposes of the Bible—to give us a thorough account of what happens when sinful people live according to their self-centered wants outside of God.

It leads to conflict, hopelessness, anxiety, rebellion, sickness, and death.

Our way isn’t the best way, and even though we know that intellectually it’s a hard lesson to live.

Will you meditate on a passage with me today, and then let it form the basis of your prayers?

“Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. Draw near to God, and he will draw near to you” (Jam 4:7-8).

Father, I know that I so often choose my way instead of Yours, even when I know better. I let Satan convince me that living according to my rules is better than submitting to You. I know that Your commandments are holy and righteous and true, but I still struggle so hard to submit to them. Please help me. Help me see that disobedience brings disappointment and that You want only what is best for me. Enable me by Your Spirit to submit to You, and please mold my will so that over time it becomes Yours.

In the name of Your Son, Amen.

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